Cheating?

--laydee--'s picture

What do u guys call cheating?

Do u guys call cheating, talking to other people behind your partners back?

but what if it wasnt like u wanted to know that person.. u just needed someone to talk to because u were stressed or faustrated from your partner.. does that count as cheatting??

and you and that person just talked on the phone and didnt do anything else.. just TALKED as BROTHER and SISTER or FRIENDS.. does that count as cheatting?? and plus when u and that person were talking u and ur partner was on a break... does that mean u're cheatting??

and then try to switch it around.. lol.. if ur partner did that to u.. would u call it cheating??

cause right now im like confused.. haha!.. @_@ X_x

just want to know what others think.. lol..

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Mushroom's picture

--laydee-- wrote:"ohh for

--laydee-- wrote:

"ohh for sure i would fall for that person.."

You're going to fall for that person that you're talking to on the phone? O_O
The one person that you talk to because you need someone to talk to? O_O
Now, you're leading to cause a scene of "Cheat."

Rok's picture

I would strongly suggest that

I would strongly suggest that you talk to a girl and not a guy because of the jealousy thing. I see no righteous in this as you want to talk to a guy as a one time thing. It's as if your boyfriend doesn't satisfy your sexual needs so you go out there and have relations with another man. Just think about it and you can see why he would be jealous. You must know your limits and even if you did not aim to "get to know" the other person, he probably is aiming to "get to know" you. You might even be blamed for leading him on. These questions now come to mind. Did he know that you were on a break with your boyfriend? Did you two flirt? Was he constantly hitting on you? Was he just advising you? Many questions and many answers needed. I hope you can resolve your problem and in the future if you ever need somebody to talk to, try a girl instead.

--laydee--'s picture

Rok wrote:Did he know that

Rok wrote:

Did he know that you were on a break with your boyfriend? Did you two flirt? Was he constantly hitting on you? Was he just advising you? Many questions and many answers needed. I hope you can resolve your problem and in the future if you ever need somebody to talk to, try a girl instead.

yes, he know that i had a bf and we were on our break.. no we didnt flirt.. no he wasnt constantly hitting on me.. he would just call me once and a while to see how i was doing with my bf... he was just giving me advises about what i should do.. but yeah.. next time i should try a girl.. lol.. X_x x]

ExpectedCaprice's picture

What do u guys call

What do u guys call cheating?
You can only cheat if you two are official. Flirting and meeting people, that's not cheating. People take cheating differently.
As for me, as long as he's not doing anything outside the siblings/friends realm, then all should be good.

Do u guys call cheating, talking to other people behind your partners back?
Definitely not.

but what if it wasnt like u wanted to know that person.. u just needed someone to talk to because u were stressed or faustrated from your partner.. does that count as cheatting??
Lol. I do it often. Sometimes we need to consult in someone that holds no bias towards us.

and then try to switch it around.. lol.. if ur partner did that to u.. would u call it cheating??
He has his own social network, I'll respect that.
He doesn't necessarily need to tell me everyone that he comes in contact with or what he tells them. I don't expect him to tell me anything. Secrets are always a given in relationships. If he talks to other girls besides me, I won't trip so long as he knows where and when to stop.

Sara Oak's picture

I don't believe that you are

I don't believe that you are cheating on your bf... but do take his feelings into consideration. My advice to you is to have gal friends instead of guy friends because it can't go no further than frienship (unless ur lesbo or bi).. lol.... I've to learned the hard way & trust me, it's not something you'd want to go thru... - Sara

"The reason people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be."
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marylicious's picture

Cheating to me, is when your

Cheating to me, is when your partner talks to another one behind your back. Without letting you know. And hides things from you. And when your partner is afraid of bring up his/her name onto the plate to talk about. Also, when your partner disclaims you when you're not in present.

MARYLiCiOUS©

jayv.'s picture

I agree with Mary. If you

I agree with Mary. If you talk to that other dude without telling your partner about it, I consider that cheating. On top of that, you said you talked to the other guy because you needed a ear to listen to you, Why choose a guy? A girl would do just fine. If you have problems with your partner, why not talk to him about it, you dont need another guys opinion on your relation. What if he was to like you, he would advise you to let go and when you do, he tries to swoop you up by "being there" for you. You basically cheated on your partner.

As Rok said, run to a girl when you need a friend to listen, not a guy.

jayv.