Well depending on how the parents raised their kids, the outcome if the parents live with one or live alone is all based on that. For my case. I'm also the oldest and my parents have told everyone that the only one they might be able to live with would be me, due to my long temper. My two younger brothers are too short tempered and my sister, well she's my sister. So, what's left? Rok, that's what's left. Oldest and long tempered, my parents will mostly likely stick with me. I really don't mind them living with me as long as they don't control my life. The wife I marry shouldn't complain about them either. But living on my own may feel nice but there's really no difference. Whether you are on your own or not, you still have to know about your parents well being. Having them live with you is a plus. They can also babysit and teach Hmong to your children! Plus plus plus!

I think the sons do have some responsibilities in looking after their parents. But no, I don't think it should be forced upon them too. If a son knows well, he would see the sacrifices his parents have already gone through for him and not hesitate if his parents wanted to stay with him. At least talk with the folks. I don't know guys even do that part with their parents.

Ah yes, for the mover outters. Just because you are away from your parents does not mean you don't have the responsibility of caring for your parents in old age too. The least you can do is stop by once in a while and check up on them. Parents don't expect much from their kids. When you completely abandon them, that's when they will lose all hope.

Shoot, I wrote a whole commentary... but then the internet died. =[
I'll just wrap up something stupid. Hehe.
I may be a girl, but then I live with 2 older brothers and a younger brother. Our family sort of have a moral value of family relation and education. Being revolved by these so called significant values they define, I'm pretty sure my brothers will follow the traditional rule. I could be wrong, but I have a feeling my youngest brother will do his job as a Hmong son.

In my perspective, I'm pretty much in favor of the traditional way, but we're living the American life. So I'd conclude that it's up to the son to decide. I mean, it's more of a way to show if the son really loves his parents or not.

I want to move out. But I'm stuck with them. I'm the youngest. Where are you wifey?!

We all know that in the Hmong culture, parents usually live with one of their son. Usually, they choose their favorite son and nyab to live with or the youngest son. Do you think you think the sons should be held responsible or they should have the right to move out? And if you're a son, are you planning to stick with your parents or move out no matter what or accept them if they, if not, it's okay?

*****I'm not a boy but may i share my thoughts. hehee

Should the chosen son hold responsible for his parents or should he have the right to move out?

Honestly, i think that if you are the chosen son then mind as well hold responsible for your parents. I mean after all, they did give birth to you and raise you to be who you are so take them in.

On the other hand, there are some guy's (son's) out there who doesn't want to take their parents in for whatever reason. i find that very sad. at the same time, it's very understandable too so whatever works for the family.

Peter Yeah, my younger brothers are exactly like that. Well we got some parents to take care of when we get married then! Don't plan on to doing it anytime soon.

TwinkleDust Yes, agree, just because you live far, you shouldn't let the distance prevent you from contacting your parents. Make frequent visits.

Viva Oh! next time you should just Ctrl+C it so you won't have to write a short summary of what you wrote. Nice signature and so sorry to hear about your internet.

Calibur Your wife will come around. Go talk to Viva das xwb.

Yami Yeah they did give birth to you and some guys are like that. But seriously, did your parents hesitate when giving birth to you? Nope, they just did it.

I seriously see no problem with sons living with parents. I mean I know they have their own pride/ego/dignity to protect and what not, but hey, I say go for the cheaper one.

Buy a big house and have a couple of people in there working and BAM! You can actually save money.

But then again, society forces us to think otherwise.

To me. If you're the only son. You should stay with your parents. If you have a younger brother, and its just you two, you guys talk about it and whoever is richer, let the parents live with him
Also, if there is more than two brothers. The oldest and youngest ones will have to take care of them and not the middle bros
(I hope im making sense. because idk what i'm talking about) O.O

I'm really surprised by all your responses. I wouldn't even consider having my parents living with me. I don't care what traditions we have or what values i break; the fact of the matter is it's my independence. i'm not gonna give up my independence for a couple of shriveled up old folks that can no longer contribute to society.

i think son( should move out when they are 18, so they can have all the fun they want and yes education. once they are married and have kids, they should move back with parents cause those mother****ers will be taking care of our kids. then move out when parents are old and about to die, cause no one wanna burry those mother ****ers.. cost too much! yes im cold and **** you

It all depends on how you are raised. We all understand responsibilities, but if any of the kids, daughter or son, feel like they want to take care of their parents then the better it is. Just dont be retarded and throw them into nursing homes, you bastards.

Anyway, its my thoughts. You take care of those who gave birth to you to your best efforts. You dont understand until you've got none or when they've gone, to know that you wished they were still around.

There's a difference between living with your parents and letting your parents live with you. My dad was the youngest in his family, and he took in his mom, my grandma. (Grandpa = long gone.)

I don't think it's a problem if you're the son and you have your parents living with you. However, if you're the son and you're like, 25-30 something year old living with them plus your other siblings, then that's a problem.

My uncles are like in their late 20's & early 30's. One is unemployed and the other one works. Both of them do **** to help the family. They eat food, party at night and only comes home when they need a place to sleep. THEY are the kind of people who I'm talking about. They need to just leave. =]

I agree with RiiCe. I have two unemployed brothers in their mid 20's and all they do is sit around doing part-time job that hardly pays for anything, and didn't finish college. And my parents are the ones living with my 2nd oldest brother with three sisters.
As for me? I'm out and about.

"The house might be small, but our heart is never."