If you marry to someone ouside of your religion then things can get harder. It is hard becuase you are both living a different life. Let me share you some food for thought:

Before the 1800s, prior to the time when Darwinian evolution was popularized, many peope categorized races in the following way: Such as the "English race" and the "Irish race" etc. It wasnt until later on in 1859 when many people started to accept evolution as a natural explanation for the origin of mankind. During this time, many people were taught and believe that different groups of races are more superior than others. Even some groups are more closely related to their apes like ancestor than others. This philosophy causes a huge problem for humans - Racism - which fuel evolution. Not just dumb theory, but also dangerous!

According to the bible, there is only one race. We just categorize them differently based on their skin color. Something that we're program to do. But we were are all created by God being of one blood and are descendants of Adam and Eve. This means that we're all related. So with this being said, you can marry anybody you like (Within the same faith), just that you dont marry close relatives today becuase of the rise of mutations and diseases which can cuase genetic disorders etc!

I know you desire a man that can support and lead you in life. But my question to you is: How can he lead and support you if he is living for himself and not God? You may think that as long as he can support you, have a wonderful job and doesnt need God, you'd still accept? Well yeah you can still tolerate that. But it is BEST if both of you are grounded in God. But its still a choice. And if one become a Christan later, then it can be a blessing. This is the best part.

As far as intermarriage go, you can marry a white/black or anybody you like. Just that our parent preffer us to marry Hmong becuase we can better understand each other. Well, if you are spiritually bound and he is too, then why not? But if you're looking for a non religious person then that is still up to you. Watever works for you. But if you're a non religious person and wants to marry a religious guy (Christian guy), chances are he wont marry you. Thought id share some of this with you hope this asnwer any question u may have. No parent would want their kids to marry a person that cannot support their daugther. Your Mom probably meant an "average guy" and that is still ok. If not, i dont know what your mom is thinking... She probably has a poor mindset and expect you to marry someone that is poor too, that way he would love you... But in you case, its the opposite.

I think your mom is weird thats all i got to say.

I agree with your mom on that. It's not a matters of religions here, it's a matter of the your racial community. For instance, ours is the Hmong community. Your mom is right for saying that because if you take a look around you. You will see there are girls that marry out of the Hmong race and guys too.

Their lives are never what we Hmong live for. We love the idea of families and friends visiting. A Hmong wife will know how to pack lunch for your families and friends that come from far; on the other hand a wife from another culture may not do the same, yet wave goodbye only.

For the husband, what if your parents what your husband to go help kill a pig or cow? Will your different race husband be able to go help? What if they were asked to attend a wedding, would your husband be able to represent himself at a wedding successfully? I mean even us Hmong guys have trouble, but if you were a different race, it'd be even harder.

Besides, I only named one example each, there's plenty more in mind but I want to keep this reply short and to the point. So yeah, I must agree with your mom because Hmong are just too about themselves.

it's up to you to judge it...i would date other race too but when it come to marriage,,i prefer a hmong..i just want someone who'd understand me spiritually...

First of all, it's not our religion. It's what us, as Hmong people believe in. Haven't you notice that the ones who marries out of race are mostly divorced? The one thing that i don't agree with your mom is the, marry a "Hmong" dude. I believe its ok to marry any "asian" race. They're more similiar and It's easier to adapt to their lifestyle.

Second of all, why would your mom agree to letting you marrying a dude who can't even support himself? That's like saying you raise up a daughter just nothing! How is she gonna count on her daughter and son in law? I believe that she's only saying that now, but once you find a dude like that, your parents would be like. "Tsov tom maum dev, yog koj tseem yuav niag laib ntawv thiab ces, koj tsis yeem hu kuv ua niam lawm nawj! Koj yuav mus tuag qhov twg los kam tsij mus!"

Third of all, might as well not marry anyone! No one you bring home will satisfy the "hmong" parents completely. They always have to find some flaws in that person your with. Either with the way he looks, or his family background.

Thats Only my opinion.

i agree with JAYV. once again. it seems im always agreeing with him. i havent been in threads lately. so im like the late replyer. =]

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