Sometimes people act shy around the person that like but I don't know about your situation though.

I'm sixteen. I can relate to her.

Look. She's still a baby!
She's still checking out her options b4 getting married.
If I were you, I wouldn't pressure her.
Just tell her straight up: EY, GIRL. I'M FU.CKIN IN LOVE W/ YOU!
And she if she reciprocates that love back good.
If she doesn't DON'T kill yourself.
You'll know that she doesn't (or does - whichever way it goes) like you, and therefore be able to move on.

How old are you anyway?
She might think you're creepy if you're like, 20 something.
Plus, you're also her cousin.
She might not be comfortable w/ marrying her blood.

I'm going to be completely honest with you. I think you make her uncomfortable.

My cousin used to like me...A LOT. He would call me and ask me all sorts of personal questions about my love life, and it'd creep me out. I never saw him as anything more than a cousin, and I never ever thought of him in a romantic way. I was just nice to him, and I guess he wanted to believe that meant that I liked him as something more.

Look, she's your cousin. Even if you're okay with the idea of dating her, and even if your relatives and her parents are okay with it, she's probably not okay with it. If she liked you, you would know by now.

Besides that, she's still so young! I suggest you find someone else.

I'm sure she's just fresh in relationship. I'm not rushing or pressuring her. I only call her on average once every 1-1 1/2 weeks. Conversation usually last about 10min then I let her go. longest time ever talked was about 1hr 15min. I'm not all over her like crazy guys. I take things maturely. but who knows, I guess time will tell. "APPEARINGLY" Yes, she's still imature. Still plays with little kids. So i guess time will tell. and I just turn 19.

Dude, she is your cousin. Of course, she is gonna treat you different from the "OTHER" guys who arent related to her. Common sense, bro.

No duh, she will sit down and talk to you. You are her cousin for god sake! Get that in your head.

"she treat me like a brother". You f-ing kidding me? What else is she suppose to f-ing treat you? You are like her brother! You're her f-ing cousin!!!!!!!!

Why won't she answer some of your question? You think she likes you and is shy...you got to be f-ing kidding me. Get it in your f-ing head. You're f-ing harassing and making her uncomfortable. Just put yourself in her shoe. I am willing to bet half the time she does not want to see or talk to you.

She talk to your other cousins normally because they aren't obsessed with her like you. F-ing get it in your head, dude!

Are you that of a pussy and can't go out to find other chick? Instead you are stalking and harassing your cousin into liking you? I'm surprise she haven't kill herself....

Get a hold of yourself, bro. You make me sick! She is your f-ing cousin! 1st and 2nd cousin are just as bad as f-ing your own sister. Gawd, thanks to you I just vomited my dinner.

To answer your question: She does not like nor want to be with you. Stop stalking/harassing her. Let her be...

Hahaha I love 7miles's response!

Lmao! Damns 7miles sure is harsh.
But at this point, she's way too young. The marriage question, in which your uncles or whoever mentioned, should NOT be mentioned to her.
In regards to her liking you, who knows?
You've been with her more her more than we have so you should understand her actions more than we can.

Did I hurt your feeling? I am so sorry. I must apologize. I have no clue where my mind was and things came out wrong. Let me try it again and maybe this time it will stick in your head.

I am going to assume since you are 19 that you talked to girls before. Therefore,I am sure you can somewhat distinguish if a girl is into you are not. So let's break it down from what you provided us and from a reasonable person stand point we can evaluate the possibility of her liking you.

Okay, let's just pretend that she isn't your cousin and 16. Let's forget about all of that. It does not exist. All we know and all we see is you and a girl that you like. The only thing that matter is the interaction and her reaction to you, okay? But most importantly, I don't want you to reply back to me trying to justify yourself. Just accept the fact that what I am about to point out are facts. I am not arguing what you are doing is wrong or right. I just want to help a Hmong brother figure out if a girl like him or not. Keep in mind, this analysis is base on what a reasonable person would come to conclude.

I hope you can follow me and by the end I hope you'll come to see the light.

Okay. First, you say she talks to your normally and do not sweet talk. Well, this is sign number one that she is "just not that into you". Generally, when an individual like or find another individual interesting, the individual tends to be more active than mere talking; such as, flirtation in their language or sweet talk as according to you. Got it? Apply this to yourself. You wouldn't flirts/sweet talk to someone if you don't like or find that individual interesting because you wouldn't want to lead that person on, correct? I hope this explain the normal talking aspect.

You brought up the fact that she is quiet when you are there to visit her despite she is willing to sit down and talk. In addition, you say she just smile shyly. Okay, let's take this easy and simple from the top.

When you go to visit her you are a guest to her. She obligated to keep you company whether she wants to or not. I am sure you'll do the same if someone come to visit you at your place. Many time, people argue that if she doesn't like you she wouldn't let you come over to visit awhile sit next and talk to you. But keep in mind, she can just be a reasonable person with respect. Therefore, we can conclude that her willingness to sit and talk with you is an act of respect to you as a guest. It does not necessary mean she is into you.

Moving along, you stated that she is silent and just smile back shyly most of the time. Again, people will argue that she is into you, but she is just those shy type. Therefore, she doesn't talk much and just smile warming back. But I will tell you that although that is true to the case, it will only happen on the first occurrence/first visit or two. If it is repetitive, it is unlikely that she is the shy type. By your second or third visit, she should have already be somewhat reasonably comfortable with you. If not, chance are she is just not that into you. In other words, it is her sign to let you know that she isn't just that into you hoping you'll come to this realization to, so she wouldn't have to tell you. Some girl..in fact, most girl use this method to let a individual know she is not into him without breaking his heart with her only words.

Another fact you brought up is the fact that when you ask her questions sometimes she does not answer you and merely laugh or smile. Well, in this one, I don't see how anyone can make an argument that she may be into you. It is really after all a negative sign. Most girl do this when they do not want to answer your question. It may due to the fact that it is a stupid question or it is personal. People will say she is uncomfortable with you; therefore, she did not answer your question. However, I dissent and say that is not it. You visited her more than once. It is not just arguable that after all of those encounter she is still not comfortable to answer your question. It is more likely than anything that the gal is ignoring you for one purpose and only one. That is again a sign; a sign to let you know she is just not that into you.

The very same can be say for she is shy to look at you. This and all of the above is illustrated with the fact that she is not the same toward your cousins aka she is not shy around them and talk to them.

Believe me if a girl you known for awhile like you out of your group of friends or cousins, she is more likely to be around and talk to you than any of them.

However, let's not go off on a tangent and stay on topic. You stated that she kept a picture of you and her when you printed picture you have taken of you two. In this statement, you are making the inference that she is into you; therefore, she wants to keep a picture for memory. I will not argue that it cannot be true and people will argue in your favor too. However, people will also argue that she is merely keeping a picture of you merely for memories and nothing more. I will not argue if she is not you or not. I will say in general we keep picture of our companions for memories whether it is our significant other, family members, friends, co-worker, and etc... Keeping a picture of someone you photo yourself with does not suffice the idea that the individual is into you.

More ever, you stated when you ask her to go out with you, she objected and optioned to just stay where you two are present. Clearly a sign that she is not into you; thus, she is unwilling to go out with you to spend alone time with you.

In closing, you been around her long enough and met her countless time. Even the shiest of shy girl have a breaking point and it is never after a million meets. If by now if she hasn't shown a sign of interest in you but the constant silence and little response, it is obviously a more than anything a sign that she may just not be into you as you thought she was.

You can spend countless times and efforts trying to justify why you believe she maybe into you, but at the end of the day, the result is the same. It would not change one thing. If she is not into you, she is not. Instead of trying to justify, you should accept the fact that this girl who you believe is the one is not the one and move on. Every minutes you spend recollecting is every opportunity you lose.

I would very much appreciate it if you do not reply back to me justifying yourself or advocating that I am wrong. I did not write my opinion for you to like or dislike. I wrote it based on my experience, what I seen and learn in life and from other people, what I know, logic, and more ever, my beliefs. I apologize if what I analyzed is not in your favor and is pointed toward the direction that she is not into you. However, keep in my that you asked for our opinion and this is my opinion based on the facts you provide.

This is as close to as a real unbiased honest opinion would be

Oh wow! H your response is hugeeeeeeeee and long. LOL
I have to agree with H. >.<
*Can't believe I read all of it.*
But yeah. When a girl smile and laugh at your questions cause she didn't want to answer not because she is shy but because it is awkward to her.
She might be "the one" but you're just a bro to her. Let her go and besides she's only 16. Omliifey!! That is YOUNG. =/

H you should be my friend and write my papers for me. ^__^
LOL =] liiFe

I read all 16 response. How amazing, I just learned something new from 7 mile.

lol nice advice 7. lol she is not into you, hnt. but you can always send her my way. =)

TO JUST LISTEN TO URSELF ITS OK TO ASK PEOPLE BUT AHAHAHA!!!! U don't always get the answer you seek. But yea that question is totally up to her not to me or other people I think?? Cause she is someone we don't no maybe u should no cause u have been spending sooooo much time with her... Jet ask her and are u sure that u LOVE her or is it just the preswation of ur parents and her parents or the fact that it makes everything easier for ur family and you? Sometimes u got to challenge yourself and take chances, it will be hard but if u get want you want then it's really rewarding so just try it wouldn't hurt to try don't ever doubt urself...

Yea man it really does depends too that's how I see everything sooooooo just ask her and if she says no then stop wasting your tyme on her and move a long to c wat awaits for you...

-----> VaHmong Lee

Well maybe she want to get know you mor b4 anything else happen so just give her time and her space you know everyone needs there own space from times to times just thinkin and etc but you if really like her i suggest that you should tell her before too late for you by the time you know notice she with someone else so it your chance to give a try!!!! hopefully everything will work out fine!! it kind of hard but when you want something you will have try your hardest on getting it <3 SFK

thanks everybody. I'll try the very best I can and see if one day she'll have feelings for me too. If she doesn't then I guess we're not meant for each other and its time to move on...I belieave some things just require a little extra patience. "Mas ua siab ntev tos"

Maybe you're not her cup of tea.

Sometimes if a girl is shy or quiet, it may mean that she likes you. But judging from what youre telling us, I take it that shes not interested.

Crap. double post.

Wow still a hot topic???

Sorry but you sound like an old man to me. Sweet talk? Are you kidding me? I dont get sweet talkin' in hmong is that like SEX talk in english?? idk, but if i was 16 id be afraid of you too:D

Hey, I am in for the update. Update us on how things gone....

Great response 7miles really great. I loved the first response and I'm blown away by the second. Everyone else had great responses too.

Here is what Rok has to say about a thing or two that hasn't been pointed out by anyone. I hope this doesn't offend anyone and I hope that it helps clarify this guys thoughts.

Ok, let me first start out by saying you're a fool for saying you're in love with a girl whom you don't even know. It seems to me that you're rushing things a little bit too much because of everyone giving you a positive reaction on your actions. Somehow I was able to picture everything you've said above and made my own interpretations that I will tell you towards the end of my response.

Now, I don't want to blame you for feeling this way towards her because it is not your fault for having hopes. You kept telling us that your parents, uncles, relatives, whom so ever is very fond about you and her. You said that they are most definitely delighted by the thoughts of you two being husband and wife. Sad to say but I really think they're just leading you on into the wrong direction. Elders usually say that if two cousins likes each other then it is better because everything will be easily settled. Yes it is very true but that doesn't mean that you should abide by it.

Let's compare this situation to a boy and a girl, who the boy, happens to like the girl and their friends knows about it. Sure the female friends will most likely comment that it's cute and they should really date. The male friends on the other hand will most likely comment that he has great taste and he should go for it if he really truly likes her the way he claims. Having this in mind, he will have huge hopes that it's going to work out because everyone gave him positive feedback. Sorry to say but this is what your family, relatives, is doing to you. They're feeding you things that you want to hear because it's only nice. Her parents are ok with you talking to her because you're their nephew, part of their family line. If you're a good person and the parents of any girl see's that, they wouldn't mind you talking to their daughters at all.

Well, I just wanted to point those little things out to help you realize why you've come to conclude that you're in love with her. I don't blame you, I'll just blame others for mentally keeping your hopes up for all that time. Just because they're fond of you and her doesn't mean that she is too. She's not the shy type and so sorry if I'm harsh but she doesn't see you more than a cousin.