Haha tell her stories. ^___^
But sometimes you don't need words to express yourself os.
It's fine being quiet with each others too.
Just listen to each other heart beats liiFe

Hrmm. Maybe you guys' chemistry just isn't meant to be express in words?

you can never have a conversation that is endless. Unless you do ALL the asking. Every little detail, you ask about. and that is what you are going to have to figure out.

but really though, you can never have an endless conversation.

all i can say is...Most things are better not said has more meaning than when said.

There are plenty of topics to talk about. You just havent found them yet. You can use this thread as a topic of discussion.

example : hey sugar plum (or whatever nickname you gave her), a few days ago, i just asked a couple of people on what kind of topics i can use to have with you. :

You pause and wait for her facial reaction. If her facial reaction says : what kind of question? : (skip the next paragraph and the 1 sentence)

If her facial expression does not say : What kind of question? : but :lalalala: Then you're back to square one. That means you have to come up with something random and make her that "WTF" face.

And come up with something else.

Now, say that you get her to have that " WTF" face,You say : Oh.. not THOSE kind of questions. But just questions on how to start up a conversation. :

Pause... wait for reaction.. If she doesnt give one back. Give her a strange look and see where that takes off.

if It puzzle her, thinking "WTF?" or it might get her asking you : oh my gosh! what kind of questions were they? :

Now, this gives you a whole variety of sceneries you can pick. You can either be the "jerk", "loving boy", "mystery boy" or which ever types of guys out there. They can also be mix into one as well. You can joke around with her.

You will now have control over the conversation. Now, there are moments when she can take over with the simple : yes : : no : answer. You must not let this happen, you have to ask or put your statement into "this or that with an explanation".

Correct, it is easier said than done. When you do succeed. You will have something to talk about.

HOWEVER, the result may vary.

Hey there buddy, im rok and i found your thread rather interesting. Well before we get started i would like to say that frank gave a very detailed examples and kudos to him. To have an on-going conversation with your girlfriend isnt a hard task if you knew what to say but unfortunately you are sort of clueless since im here reading this. The important things you should know by now, because of your time spent on your relationship are some facts about what she enjoys, your common interest with her, and your differences. If you know those facts then starting a conversation with her should be quite simple. Im no expert at this subject but i hope the things that im about to say will assist you with your problem interacting with your girlfriend. -to be continued when i access the pc-

Ok, now let me get started in trying to help you out with your problem. Your main goal here is probably trying to maintain your relationship status with your girlfriend. You probably have thoughts that she have grown bored of you since you don't have anything interesting to say to her. Considering those facts that I have stated above, you'll gain an advantage if you know exactly what she is interested in and what she isn't interested in. Let's take a look at your common interests first because it'll most likely give you positive results that you are looking for. Depending on what you two have in common, you can keep a conversation alive by discussing about what you two both like. For example: You two may share the common interest of the weather when it is sunny. You have so many possible conversations based on that one topic. You can simply throw out your input on how much you dislike the cold weather and share stories about the times when you enjoyed yourself in the bright, sunny, sun that we all live under. Or you can also go on and give your thoughts about how the cold weather is effecting you in certain ways. Stating these simple things in a conversation will usually lead to a conversation that involves many other elements. But do remember that you must pause to see her reaction towards your statements. What you want to do is draw her into what you are discussing about, catching her attention is the main key in a conversation. Without her attention, your conversations die short. You're probably the only person who knows her more than any of us here and that being said, you're the only person who can understand how she would react to certain things you say.

Now on the other hand, opening a conversation based on differences will most likely lead to a debate. A debate isn't necessarily considered a conversation if you embrace it. A conversation is still simply a conversation and a debate falls in this category. For example: you should compare your each others interest and question her why she likes doing what she does. What you are simply doing is throwing out some negative facts that will engage in a possible on-going conversation between you two. Take precaution and know your limit when discussing about differences as they may possibly lead to a serious argument and I'm pretty sure you don't want that.

The main key to holding a conversation is to simply elaborate on things. Tell little white lies to keep the conversation interesting and alive. Yes, I'm encouraging you to lie a little to help you elaborate in your conversations. It never hurts anyone if it's just a little white lie. Don't go overboard and tell a lie now because that would totally be different from what you are attempting to do. Liife has stated above that telling stories is great and I strongly support her there because stories are the best to hold a conversation. Throw in some little white lies in your stories, mainly jokes about yourself or a particular object/person in your stories and you'll be elaborating.

From what I had read above, she isn't too fond about your jokes maybe because of some certain factors. Maybe they come on her too harsh or you just have a poor sense of humor. You can improve that by watching what you say and think ahead of your conversation. Thinking ahead of what you're about to say is the best way to turn a conversation into what you would like to see. You, knowing your girlfriend the best, can predict what she would like to hear and what she wouldn't. For example: You wouldn't want to insult your girlfriend as a joke because she may be vulnerable to the negatives and not see the joke itself. Her reactions are what you should be looking for because they'll give you a huge advantage in the future. There are so many details on how you can hold onto a conversation and say the right things at the right time that it'll take forever to explain. One person must experience this themselves because first hand experience is usually always better than second hand experience itself.

I strongly urge you to give these a try and if I had offended you in any way, I truly apologize on my humble assumptions. You should consider that I'm your friend and not your enemy. What I have stated above is simply what works for me and how I run my conversations. I don't expect it to work perfectly for you and it is your own judgment to use it or not. I wish you the best and if I did aid you in any particular way, I'm glad that I've accomplished that here. I'm no expert but just another person who is throwing out his two cents. Good luck!

this is the best way to end the silence....phone sex!!! jerk off baby!! youll get her attention and shell be excited to talk on the phone w/u more than just once a night

im a perv

"SEX" this subject has no ending! or refer your gf to me, i can take care of it for you.

Hrm....ok ok, from what I read already, it's....kinda lagging. But you still love her. I'm glad that you still do and is willing to keep it going.

Like Liifey says, you can tell stories. I know that sometimes, stories will continue to make your convos last for hours on end. Haha, been there myself, so it does work. And stories can always branch off into other things too.

TO ROK: I'ma tell her you lie to her. Hehe.

To you again: I hope that it all works out in the end. [sigh] Just remember that sometimes it may be best for both of you to take a break. I'm not saying break it off cause there is nothing to talk about now...I'm merely saying that sometimes you need to step back and take a look at the picture overall.

If she doesn't mind, just talk of any random thing. Say what comes to mind. Whatever it is, no matter how "insignificant" it seems....it will show her that you are still there for her. You're ready to talk of anything. It's your mind to her....but it's up to her if she wants to share hers or not....

Overall, good luck. I hope that it works out.

P.S. Don't mind STFU....

hahahaa LOL STFU is Funniiee and Stupid

ok here's my tip:

I've been through this with my ex-boifwen. When he calls me, him & I always want to talk to eachother for like a long time/hours & hours and everyday/all day; it's just a couple-thingy. So then there has always been a point where i get bored of talking to him. We have like nothing to say, nothing to talk about, and no more questions to ask. Most of the time we talked about was just luvvy-dubby crap! For Example: "I miss you"/ "I love you"/ "I wanna see you"/ and blah blah blah etc. It gets really boring. Our communication just felt like it died out!! Our talking long nights were just gone.. so here's a solution that I think might help

Maybe you both are better off seeing eachother or hanging out with eachother. Go to a place you both enjoy, go to the movies, take her out to the cafe, go on a couple-date. Just do the "Living The Good Life" with her.

Or maybe she needs some space or both you guys need some space from eachother.

You can't always spend your life talking on the phone to eachother.

try asking her a non yes or no question. always ask her how's her day, what's new in her life and she'll answer you always with updates of her life. ocassionally after she's done yapping she'll always ask about yours, give her simple answer but leave her hanging like this.

girl: you? what did you did this weekend?
boy: ah.. hang out.
girl: oH?... with?
boy: some of my guys
girl: doing what?
boy: drinking....
girl: WHAT?
boy: kidding, we went *blah blah blah*

good luck!

Both parties have to be able to open up to one another.
Tell her your thoughts, your reactions, your experiences. Don't dominate the conversation though. If you go on talking too much about yourself and not allowing her to talk her mind, expect her to fall asleep during you two's conversation. LOL! *Speaking from experience.* I've fallen asleep or become sleepy within 30 mins of conversing with a person over the phone because I lost interest in what he was talking about. So, change the subject after a few good rounds of debating or discussing.

uh u've been together for a year n u dnt knoe why u love her n u dnt knoe wat to talk about?...uh break up. thats all i got for u. by the third month u should knoe why u "love" her n u shouldnt be bored of each other at all. yes there will be those silent moments in each relationship but if u gotta ask us for topics to talk about with ur gurlfrined then better to jus break up. sorries

wow mai by the third month people should know why they love the other person? you sure are a young one O_O.

Anyhow.... advice..... lets see.... hmm what I usually do is try not to repeat or say something over and over and over. The more you say something over and over the more boring it gets. You can try to approach it another way.... for example unstead of saying... "hi, honey how was your day? I would say... Honey I bet your day sucked huh?" Also when you're talking to your gf or bf don't be afraid to the point where you're going to offend them -_-. Being to perfect in a conversation for example being scared that you might say something wrong makes a conversation is boring because you're probably leaving the fun part out. DO NOT!!!!! be afraid to joke around. Sometimes it's ok to say something mean just so you won't be repeating yourself over and over but say it in a joking manner. For example..... if she asks... honey do I look ugly in this dress? you can say "yes" but make sure you have a smile or something that shows it was a joke. Usually she'll jokingly act like she was hurt and you can say "aww sorry I was just kidding or something like that." However if she took it serious, it's still ok because arguements always leads to a long conversations ^_^. One big part in having a long conversation is...... don't be afraid to say weird things. The weirder the better because it usually catches your bf/gf's intrest. You can make anything into a conversation as long as you make it intresting, you can even go as far as to talking about "****." I'll show you an example..... one time I asked out of the blue... "honey, have you ever like taken a crap where it's just not your normal size?" Of course that disgusted her but at the same time it caught her attention -_^. She was like what the... what type of question is that? All I said was just answer the question. Chances are your bf/gf would say, "Heck no." That's when you get to be jokingly nicely mean, and say "what a freakin liar I know you have!!! everyone has!!! and boom you have a conversation because they'll probably reply. Just don't get to digusting with it -_^. By the way, conversations about lovley dovley things all the time can be boring so try not to always talk about lovley dovley things. Just because you're in a conversation doesn't mean everything always has to be about you two, trust me even love needs a break. Open up more and be comfortable around them. Being a straight up gentlemen all the time is boring!!!!!!!! more to come soon...

Thanks for the advice bro.

Jokes? I love jokes but on the other hand. She doesn't know how to joke, lol. Sometime joking with her may end up ugly. But as for now, I guess we're on the cool side.

Uhoka sorrie??? I'm nt sure wat I'm suppose to say. Aniways, I wasn't trying to say break up with her bc of a silent moment. I'm saying that if u guys can nvr keep a stable convo going then how can u guys make it? If one person is jus plain boring then why be in the ralationship?

Okay, then tell me what about our feelings? Just because we may not keep a stable conversation. We still have feelings for one another. [At the time when we was still together]

I guess