After piecing your story together, I understand where you're coming from. I don't think it's just older brothers, because I have five of those. My two older sisters also make me feel like your brother makes you feel.

They treat me like I'm a little kid who doesn't know anything, and they refuse to realize that I'm an adult now and I've had experiences of my own. To them, I'll always be their kid sister who they have to tell what to do. And, needless to say, it's frustrating.

But, I think it's just hard on your brother to think of you as someone other than the person he's always known. It's hard for him to imagine you being independent and making choices of your own when for so long you've followed him around and listened to him. He's probably afraid that you'll make the wrong decisions and end up hurting yourself. And, I'm sure he believes he knows best.

Maybe you should sit down and talk to your brother. Tell him that you're capable of making your own decisions, and even if you make mistakes, those are your mistakes to make. We all need growing pains in order to learn, and he can't protect you forever. However, also try to understand where he's coming from. What he's doing is out of love. He might not admit to it and sometimes it may not seem like it, but I'm sure he cares about you a lot.

I too am an older brother of all my siblings. The only reason why we do that is that we're older, we've seen enough bad things happen. When you're the oldest, you watch out for your younger siblings. You know for a fact that your brother was just saying he wouldn't help, but in reality, he was saying that so you wouldn't fight. Saying that you didn't have big brother's approval to fight, so you shouldn't be fighting.

We only act like we're your dad because we care for you. We want you to do right, as the oldest we have been through harsh and narrow things. And we just want the best for our young siblings. I know, because I have a younger brother. He's just like you, he wants to do all this fun and games stuff, which I don't always allow him to do. He always gets mad at me, but what can he do?

It's just a our meaning of life. If we don't succeed, we just want our young brothers to be pointed the right way. So then even if we fail, they won't due to our experiences.

LOL. Boy, you have no clue what independent means.
Just because your older brother doesn't look after you, that doesn't mean you're independent.

Well I'm tryin ahahahah well ok not independent but wats the word??? Iono ok ahahaha thnxs but I can't c where u guys are coming from I want to make my own decisions and learn from wat I do I want to learn these experiences personally I don't want to see an example or hear one

wait till your 18. then your older brother cant tell you what to do.

So you think you are independent? You sound like just another ignorant teenage brat who think he/she know it all. You haven't even taste what it is like to be independent and you are already arguing that you are independent? How selfish and premature of you.

So you think having the ability to go out whenever, do whatever, think for yourself, and etc. make you independent? Well, sorry to break it to you, but that is not it. What you are asking for is the autonomy to make your own decision. However, I see that you are not competence or rational enough to be autonomy judging by your ignorant statements. Thus, I can see why you're brother have to watch your every move in fair you might do something unintelligent.

Turning 18 does not make you independent. It is merely another step forward toward gaining full independence. More or less, it is a mile stone in granting you some more autonomy. Indeed you are an adult now and have responsibility, but that does not make you any more dependent than your younger sibling.

To truly be independent is to not be dependent on anyone for any basic necessaries. In other words, you can provide yourself with foods, health care, clothing, education, income, shelter and etc... aka you live under your own roof, you pay for your own mortgage/rent, bills, foods, insurance, health care, and etc. When you achieve this milestone, not one person will argue that you are not independent nor have full autonomy. There wouldn't be a need for you to declare yourself independent. Society will see and acknowledge you're independent.

I am telling you to be independent is not a child's play. It isn't easy. It is hard work.

So quit your selfishness arguing that they won't acknowledge that you are independent. You are not! Not now,but maybe in the near future. Until you truly achieve that mile stone, earn every privileges you can from your parents and older sibling, and then you'll start to see that your parents and older sibling will give you the autonomy you desire for.

Most importantly, remember that age does not certainly determine your independent or autonomy.

This is coming from someone who is a son, a younger brother, and an older brother.

I think you want to be independent from your brother not from life correct?

Well, I grew up with three big brothers, they're all awesome in somewhat way. =) They tell me not to go drinking. But they go clubbing and drinking etc. But I don't know... They just don't want you to be as messed up as them but they still do it.... o.O I am confusing myself. LOL. Anywho, I think your brother was wrong. I mean if a fight start he should stop it not 'look'.

I would say something, but at the moment, I'm too tired to come up with anything to say.

let me throw in the real towel here, he is trying to protect your ass. it sounds like your hommies are a bunch of little thugs wanna be that love to drink. so your older brother just wanna save your parents the headach of going through all those funeral craps. accidents happen

Lmao WTF is all that??? How do you delet all thoes other extras I accidently made??? Didn't do it on purpose

I think hes just caring.

I don’t have a older sister or brother, since I am the oldest one. I, however understand where you are coming from and I also understand where you older brother is coming from. I, myself have 3 younger sisters and 2 younger brothers. I always wanted the best for them, so I become this over protective old sister of their. I gave them lecture about being out too long and what they are doing because I cared about them, and I don’t want to see my younger sibling get hurt. Yes, I am a hypocrite because I do the same myself, but along the line somewhere I develop older sisteritis and I cant help but wonder if they are okay. I don’t know if this help but maybe he is the over protective brother like me.

Your brother just really loves you. That is all but one day he will have to let you go. He's acting as "daddy" because one day both your dad will be away and you will need someone to look up to when you are lost. That is why your brother is playing that role now. It is something all older siblings do.